Sextrology- You WON'T Believe What's in This Book

Ok Clever Girls (and guys), start your engines because I have got something that will make you redline. Forget Googling your upcoming date. No, don’t forget it- do it anyway, but find out their astrological sign and do some digging.

I have to be honest- I’ve never been all that into astrology- except that which my So Very Clever best friend, Alisa, has foisted upon me since we were 6. But THIS is something else entirely.

Seems my best friends are into astrology because Julie told me about a book called "Sextrology," and since I'm a sucker for a turn of phrase, we went to a fantastic book store called Legacy Books and purchased it. Then, unexpectedly, we ended up hunkered down for the balance of the day and made sense out of our entire lives. Well, OK, not sense- but we shed some light on a great many things.

This book is- well, at the risk of understating (as I was just told yesterday I have a flair for understatement), is FREAKING awesome and So Very Sexy. If you are a reader, passionate about the use of the English language or just alive- you will find something worthwhile in this book. Don’t be intimidated by the size (you can count on this post to be LOADED with double entendre). Use both hands, and engage your mind.

The authors must be two of the most comprehensive and gifted minds of our literary time because they have managed to cover some tremendous ground and they do so without out ever pandering to idiots by managing the diction, the vocabulary or the outright unabashed, in-your- face talk of SEX. My gosh. I’m blushing- even now, and I’m alone.

So- there has never been a more important time to ask "What’s your sign?" and don’t wait! Even if it’s a blind date- make some type of contact and get a birth date- you will not be sorry. If nothing else, you will be shocked how much this book will give you to inquire about during a date. We are so lazy in our date speak- "What do you do?" "What lead you to DO that?" "Where did you go to school?" "Why?" "When did you decide you wanted to do the most boring job ever created …" and the beat goes on. NO MORE.

Married readers- hold ON, before you stop reading. You won’t believe what you can do with your marriage after reading about your spouse and yourself for that matter. This book covers the mind, body, spirit and everything from fantasy to fetishes, positions to body type- turn-ons and words that define or relate to the person under the sign.

Now, a Very Clever man I know responded flippantly to my gushing about this book. "Paint with a broad enough brush …" Easy target, handsome. Fact is- he’s been taught a few things since I dove head long into "Sextrology."

The first thing that blew me away was body type. It gets shockingly specific and I’ve test driven this book, people- it is eerily accurate on many points. So- what if it is a bunch of crap? You will still have more than you can imagine on your mind when you sit down with someone new. I do it all the time now, can’t help it.

"So … what’s your sign?” Now, don’t get me wrong- I have not digested and committed to memory each of the nearly 600 pages (don’t worry, there is a fair amount of white space), but I have researched thoroughly important relationships in my life and my own sign- so when I meet someone who is let’s say ... Capricorn, I am ready to delve.

Now, instead of saying something really mundane like- "So, where are you from?" I say, "How many siblings do you have?" "Are you the best looking?" Honestly, the responses from people are hilarious. People have been conditioned to expect boring conversation- so let’s turn over a new sheet and start becoming So Very CLEVER communicators.

This concept- or, what I'm suggesting you DO- is cohesive in all facets to the Clever articulation. Let’s do. Learn. Apply our knowledge and parlay new information into fantastic interactions with others. Some of the questions this book has prompted me to ask have blown people away and led to completely engaged interaction.

"Was your mother an overbearing woman?"

"Did you feel like you had to stick up for your father?"

"Do you think you grew up in the shadow of your siblings?"

"Do you feel more at ease in the company of men than other women?"

So much in this book has given me an interesting place to start- often a point of common ground. I’ve even been able to hit people in the solar plexus, so to speak, and enlighten them to things they’ve been confused by their entire lives.

For example- I was reading about Taurus male, curious about a person from my past- WHOA. That explains some things. I was speaking to a close friend of mine who is also a Cap (not as strenuous as I) and she was disclosing some interesting issues she and her new beau were having in bed.

I imparted some information I’d read in "Sextrology." Knowing the sexual dynamic that exists at times for the Taurus male, I told her to try a few different things and- well, let’s just say it ignited something for them.

Fact is, we are all pretty set in our ways- and it takes some time and patience to understand those around us. Often we lose interest in getting to know someone or that person (spouse) becomes so habitual, we forget we might have "issues." Either way- if you have a little window into them, without them knowing, perhaps you can dive into some things they might not feel comfortable initiating discussion about.

If you care about a relationship you are in that seems strained- whether emotionally or sexually or even physically- get this book and start doing some research on yourself and those around you. It’s pretty amazing.

Another friend imparted to me she felt her sex life with her husband needed to be "put to pasture." They'd been married for five years and while the sex was never that great, she loved him and they enjoyed a rich, companionable relationship in every other respect. So, they got married and she assumed he enjoyed their sex life, but it had become apparent neither of them really did. It had turned into a huge battle- he wanted more sex, but the sex they were having was so boring to her she couldn’t generate the enthusiasm. So it became a vicious circle.

I knew her sign and she told me he was an Aries. WHOA. I was shocked by what she was telling me. The Aries male, according to "Sextrology" is supposed to have a raging appetite for sex- which she did communicate to me, but the word BORING was nowhere in the text for Aries.

She bought the book and they read the Aries male entry together over a bottle of wine. She was snickering about it because it talks about how lustful and intentional he is about taking a mate- envisioning an actual snorting bull charging his conquest. He looked her straight in the eye and said- "That's about right. That’s how I want you- all day, every day." She was taken aback. "What do you mean? You never act like a raging bull." He told her he was embarrassed by how much sex he wanted to have WITH HER. When he said "with her"- something clicked in their marriage and it has been on like the crack of dawn ever since. She feels desired beyond comprehension and he is getting to pursue her, indulge in her and pour his desire into her at will.

Now, what was becoming a roommate type relationship has turned into a very productive marriage. I'm not saying this book is the answer to every marriage- but it just might be the answer to your relational questions.

I want to do a follow up on this next week because I have a few more scenarios I’d like to impart. In the meantime- be So Very Clever and intentional about your interactions. It will be what separates you from the pack.

"Sextrology" by Starsky & Cox